The opposite of selfless is not selfish- its deselfing. That is, to completely and entirely abolish your own needs, wants and desires in fear of disapproval and rejection from others.

Harriet Learner describes the concept of deselfing in her book, The Anger Dance and I think its absolutely genius...

I get a lot of PMs and requests in the group to give relationship advice. As in- adult relationships.

I try to resist as much as I can.

It's because I frankly haven't figured out how to make a relationship work one-way.

Read that carefully... I said I don't know how to MAKE a relationship...

Some of you might remember, I mentioned moving into a new house a few weeks ago.

It’s one of THE most amazing blessings for me الحمدللہ because I can’t tell you how much and how long I wanted a bigger place!

We bought our old house when we had no kids and didn’t know if we ever...

For a lot of parents, slowing down with their child seems like a lot to ask. They feel like they have too much going on to pause for their child's emotions, to mediate the fights between siblings and to problem-solve trouble areas rather than issuing commands.

I get it. I've never met a parent...

Let me tell you a story about this girl named Husna who’s our spunky and feisty 6-year-old (though the story is from last year pre-covid when she was still in school).

So about Husna... If I were to say she alone, in many ways, is equal to her three brothers, I wouldn’t be lying. She...

If I asked you if its ok to break into someone's office to get something you need.. you'd probably say no. Heck no. If I told you I caught an employee of mine sneaking into my office behind my back, you'd say they're not worthy of my trust.. yes?

Consider the following.

Let's say your boss gives...

We think love is big things. We buy our kids whatever they need and more. We make all their wishes come true. We do stuff for them around the house so they don’t have to. We put them in the ‘best’ schools. We try to eliminate hardships from their lives. We do so so much for them...

Ok so lots of you have PM’d me and asked me how to become a Parent Coach. I figured I’ll write a post about it so everyone can benefit انشاللہ

You can do a certification and become a “certified coach” and that has its value at some point in your career (not a good starting...

About losing children in public places...

I read a few tips once that I’ll share here in case they help someone. If anyone else has any tips of their own, please share!

1- As early as possible, we taught our kids our phone numbers and addresses. My 4-year-old twins were able to learn this...