The opposite of selfless is not selfish- its deselfing. That is, to completely and entirely abolish your own needs, wants and desires in fear of disapproval and rejection from others.

Harriet Learner describes the concept of deselfing in her book, The Anger Dance and I think its absolutely genius...

Some of you might remember, I mentioned moving into a new house a few weeks ago.

It’s one of THE most amazing blessings for me الحمدللہ because I can’t tell you how much and how long I wanted a bigger place!

We bought our old house when we had no kids and didn’t know if we ever...

Go from “saying” to “doing”

If we’re saying the same thing many times and the child is not listening that means it’s silly to keep saying the same thing and expect different results. We as adults, can make a different choice instead of expecting children to...

What kids are NOT:

1- Something to mould.

2- Something to polish.

3- Something to be fixed

4- Our possessions.

5- Our vehicles to prove something to the world

6- Our projects

7- Our trophies/pride/honor

8- An extension of ourselves

9- A part of ourselves

10- Simple creatures to be programmed with...

Time to get a bit real here.

 People always ask me how I'm getting so much stuff done.. kids, kids' homeschooling, my grad school (masters), my business/work and to answer this, I want to tell you about a conversation I had yesterday with my doctor.

First of all, why was I even at the...

If I asked you if its ok to break into someone's office to get something you need.. you'd probably say no. Heck no. If I told you I caught an employee of mine sneaking into my office behind my back, you'd say they're not worthy of my trust.. yes?

Consider the following.

Let's say your boss gives...

We think love is big things. We buy our kids whatever they need and more. We make all their wishes come true. We do stuff for them around the house so they don’t have to. We put them in the ‘best’ schools. We try to eliminate hardships from their lives. We do so so much for them...

Goals of Respectful Parenting:

1- Raise children who we have deep, soulful relationships with ALL our lives. According to extensive research, it is these parent-child relationships that lead to successful and fulfilling lives.

2- Raise children who have intrinsic motivation and don’t do...

I can see how it appears that way to you.

As they say, "The kids who need the most love, ask for it in the hardest ways..."

I invite you to reflect on the following...

Wherever kids go, people judge them based on their behavior in the few minutes they observe them. We hear all kinds of comments.