Changing our brain wiring is no easy task. It’s monumental and it’s the bravest thing you’ll ever do. Making small consistent changes adds up and a few months later you’ll notice that you’re doing better.
1- Find your spiritual safe space
Repeated research has shown...
VERY Unpopular opinion: If you have a lot of problems overcoming your anger and irritation with your kids- speak to your doctor about taking anti-anxiety medication.
When you’re raised with suppressed emotions, it’s a form of emotional neglect (officially classified as an ACE-Adverse...
The twinkles (4-year-olds) were missing their teachers so when the teachers emailed me asking if we were interested in 30-minutes of once-a-week classes, I said sure why not.
The boys were thrilled and looking forward to seeing their teachers but when we started the zoom call, they got a bit...
Bad News: No one is coming to save you.
Good News: You're all you need to save yourself.6
Research also shows that people who believe in a Higher Power do better in life, so in other words, your emaan (faith) is also going to help!
There are three steps to the healing process as...
1- Pray (or make an intention)
Someone told me a long time ago to make dua (pray) that I can see my own shortcomings. It's truly an amazing dua... I'm SO grateful to Allah for showing me a mirror and showing me where I need to grow as a person. This kind of self-awareness is...
I’m not a very organized person. When I have a parent ask me how to set a routine for their child, my first instinct is to break out in a sweat. I hate the r-word (though no doubt children thrive on routine).
I’m also not extremely efficient. I do better under pressure. When...
Me and Sarah Ghazi were having a conversation today about why so many people say things like, “I was hit as a child and I turned out fine.”
This is true. Lots of people say similar things- not just about being hit but about being raised in an emotional desert. “We turned out...
Some people get very triggered when anything in regards to their childhood is brought up.
Perhaps their childhood is the best time they had in their life. Fair enough. Makes sense.
Perhaps they don’t understand the relevance of childhood experiences. Something happened so long ago- how the...
Victim versus Survivor
After you’ve survived victimhood, you become a survivor.
That’s why it’s impossible to be both at the same time.
True survivors usually don’t call themselves victims.
Why, you ask?
Because it doesn’t serve us. A huge part of being a survivor is...